Tuesday, October 9, 2007

It’s hard having nappy hair in a white man’s world…

I’ve never been the girl to complain much about her body. I don’t talk about my thighs being fat, my butt being too big or my stomach looking like a tub of Crisco that could be mixed up into a nice batch of biscuits. (Not that it could). I have mentioned on this blog an interest in implants, but if I ever get the money for plastic titties, I might end up buying a car instead. I’m naturally practical. * wink *

However, the one thing on my body that I am most self-conscious about, is my hair. Weird? Right? Well, I am mixed and apparently my black side didn’t get the memo that my white side sucks at hair care. I have what my friends’ would call, “nigga hair.” I mean I’ve seen worse, don’t get it twisted, my sh*t is not as bad as it could be...

but things could always be better…

I give props to sistas like Natural Muze, who wear their hair natural without hesitation. I couldn’t do it. I would be stressed out in the mirror all day, wondering if I looked okay. I mean there are a lot of hair care products available today. Everywhere I look, women have their hair whipped up nice. I just don't have the time or the energy to deal with my hair and then I end up in situations like these-----> for example ... I got really irritated at work last night, because of some guy I work with. He had the nerve to say to me, “make sure that you get your hair done by Wednesday, because um yeah...” (And he made a face).

Ok first of all, nobody asked you. Second, I was actually planning on getting it done today, but he didn’t need to know that. No, this guy wasn’t my boss. It was just some guy that I work with. And I’m not going to lie, my hair was looking rough last night at work, lol, but I don’t have time to get it done all the time.

The thing that got to me the most, is that this guy is black. Black guys should know better than to tell a sista about her hair. If she don’t already know, which she usually does, she still doesn’t need to hear it...

24 comments:

Captain Smack said...

So, you need something that's low maintenance and won't easily get out of control... how about the super short look? Can you pull that off? Or how about lots of tiny little braids? That looks cool sometimes. I'm just brainstorming here.

Strength/Courage/Wisdom said...

Your hair is beautiful and so are you. Don't let anyone tell you different!

Ms. Behaving said...

Okay so obviously somebody missed out on the sayin': "If you ain't got SHIT nice to say then you probably shouldn't say SHIT @ all"

hmpff dude got a lotta daggone nerve!!!

Don said...

MsP, from what I seen in your picture, you are an attractive sista. I don't see what you're talking about your happy being nappy - but I aint gon' lie, the post title had me rolling.

You are sexy. Stop acting like you are not. Got damnit.

Lol, let me stop playing with you.

MsPuddin said...

captain (I want to) smack (that ass)- Yeah I had the tiny braids for about ten years and got sick of em, and then I have a short hair cut, but fake long extensions seem to be in right now…glad you brought that amazing brain of yours over here though…

s/c/w/- welcome! And thank you! That sounds like something my mom would tell me…lol

ms. behaving- I’m tellin’ you! The nerve!

don- you’re the best. If I ever have a bad day I can count on one of your comments to cheer me up…My hair doesn’t look rough all the time, just yesterday and I knew it and I didn’t need it to be pointed out lol

UBERMOUTH said...

LOL~Captain Smack's beautician advice.
That guy had some cheek.

thehoustongirl said...

feel that! Ms.Puddin! my sister from another mother! :)

So@24 said...

Is that Harry from Harry and the Hendersons?

Colleen said...

There's always that one guy that has to point out what you already know. Like the ass thats like "dude you have a zit, right there." Thank you because I've given up mirrors this year and was hoping someone would point out my flaws, I knew I could count on you.

I hope you told him what a dick he was.

Betty Boob Hug said...

this post made me smile a lot. I love reading about other girl's hairs!!

I'm a whitey girl with straight mousy brown hair that does NUTHIN' straight up! But I lived next door to a gorgeous Samoan chick who had curly, frizzy, loooooooong unruly hair and she bitched about it constantly.

I would give my right arm for a head of hair like hers.

See? us girls. So bloody hard to please!!

Don said...

MsP, I feel you.

NYCPonderings Chick said...

I cant believe that guy said that to you! what a dick, seriously rock whatever hair you want to rock, who cares about anyone else, I say do it up, you dont need to impress anyone else but yourself, and forget those implants you gotta rock what you got!! get a car instead and make it a convertible so you can show off that hair!!

anonymousnupe said...

You...you are not your hair,
You are not that skin
Why'd you just expec-to-rate, oh no
You are not your hair
I like your underwear
Whatchoo mean "why you lookin' down there..."


Colleen, a dude told you you had a zit on your ass?! That's just hateful.

Obesio said...

At least you still have your hair. I am a white dude who had a giant afro when I was young. At the time, taking care of it was a major hassle. Now, I look at my pathetically balding head and damned if I don't miss my huge afro.

MsPuddin said...

Ubermouth- yes, he’s alright in my book…

thehoustongirl- lol I’ll take it, because so far I’m the only girl…

so@24- Sasqutach (sp) power!

Colleen- oh you know me. I mad him feel really, really bad. He did eventually apologize…

Betty boob- isn’t it funny how we always want for our bodies the opposite of what we have…???

Don- that’s wassup

NYC- man, my hair + convertible = bad idea. Lol But one of these days it’s worth a shot!

anon- if I read correctly I think she had the zit on her face and the guy was an ass….but I could be wrong…lol

MsPuddin said...

obesio- hey I mentioned before how chicks like * ahem * Bottle blonde, like to rub on bald heads. It’s a turn on…

anonymousnupe said...

Yep, I know, MsP. It was simply another of my vain attempts at humor.

Mighty Dyckerson said...

Make sure you get that mustache waxed while you're at it.

Muze said...

awwww...thanks for the shout-out! i've never seen a pic of you...but if you're a go-go dancer, you're hot anyway....

don't worry about that arsecrack.

Opinionated Diva said...

Your co-worker needed to accidentally get slapped upside the head!

Diarrhea of the Mouth said...

i have really long hair and i get asked if i had hair extensions all the time. even my ex husband asked me after we got a divorce and he was with me for 10 years (he's white and just married a black woman and didn't understand why she seems so protective of her hair) i had to explain it to him.

STILL_POCAHONTAZ said...

LMAO....I love this post.

I am serious about my hair too. I have what folks say “good hair” this shit aint good. I hate it cus Its frizzy as hell and its a lot of maintenance. Next time slap the taste out of you co-workers mouth…do it for me!

BottleBlonde said...

Black guys should know better than to tell a sista about her hair.

Anybody with a brain should know better than to criticize ANY woman for the way she looks. I guarantee that this dildo you call a co-worker rarely gets ass.

Furthermore, your hair is beautiful. Everybody has bad hair days.

This post pissed me off because I’ve gotten some mucked up comments about my hair, as well. My hair is naturally curly and wild (though you’d never know it since I post pics of it straight), and at my old job a few years back, some anal wart asked me if I stuck my finger in a light socket.

hardy.har.har.

And would you believe this same anal wart was always tryin' to get into my panties? The nerve.

thehoustongirl said...

my hair is currently, in a HOT ASS MESS! i made a saturday morning appt to the salon...i mean for the past week or so, i just slapped some gel, brushed it and put it in a ponytail, my kitchen is becoming too 'messy' LOL!! argh!! this is my "nappy head ho" week because my shit is FA SHO nappy lmao